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April 16, 2010 | Umbilical Cord
That morning I had my bowl of cereal on the picnic table beside my truck. As I was taking in the fresh, Virginia air, a swallow buzzed my head at the speed of light.
Swallow offers the following wisdom:
- Closely related to the Thunderbird
- Power of communal living
- Understands the value to family and home
- Ability to maneuver – Copyright www.animalspirits.com
- Connection to the arrival of thunderstorms
After saying good morning to the swallow and all of my family, I headed into Galax for a workout at one of the local Wellness Centers, and to do several loads of laundry.
While I was doing laundry, I started thinking about my family and metaphysics. At the time I wrote this I had approximately twenty-eight family members. I was closer to some than others. Some of that had to do with the fact that I was hardly around and had been exploring various parts of the country for the last fifteen years of my life, while some of it had to do with the fact that I was more compatible spiritually with individual family members than others. The love was the same for everyone. However, our compatibility varied from family member to family member.
I took a moment to run my Destiny Card Compatibility Charts for my parents and all of my siblings. For what it was worth, I added only my parents below. I didn’t want to bring my family into my journal, but I did want to show how each family member relates to one another on a soul level, and how some relationships were complicated, while others were relatively easy.
Keep in mind that Kabbalah has their way of matching souls, as well as conventional astrology and various other oracles. Since the Destiny Cards are a big part of my www.aboutyourbirthday.com website, I’ve decided to use this particular oracle in my journal.
Compatibility Chart for Chris and Mom
Chris gives to Mom as her Karmic Cousin
Most cards in the deck have two other cards that are called Karma Cousins. In a Karma Cousin relationship, much like the Karma Card relationship, there is a definite flow of energy – one of them is giving something to the other throughout the duration of the relationship. However, unlike the Karma Card relationship, the Karma Cousin relationship doesn’t have the intensity of the mirroring factor. Therefore, Karma Cousin Relationships can be a lot less dramatic and intense, and the giving and receiving can be more on a friendly basis. This is a good connection for any kind of relationship. But it is important for both partners to understand which direction the giving and receiving ought to go.
In this relationship the energy is flowing from Chris to Mom. This means that he will be giving something, perhaps many things, to Mom over the duration of their relationship. This is a karmic connection, which implies that Chris and Mom have been together before and in that lifetime, left some unfinished business between them. This does not imply any negative sort of obligation. No one is compelled here to do anything. On the contrary, Karma Cousin relationships often have a nice feeling to them of mutual sharing and support. However, there is a definite flow from Chris to Mom of some specific things.
One of those things might be acknowledgment. It is likely that Chris needs to acknowledge Mom in some way. This acknowledgment may actually provide a valuable key that will open doors for Chris, even though they may not realize this at the outset. In giving to Mom he may unlock his own mysteries. We might say that Chris learns from Mom, but that learning must be accepted by him if this relationship is to fulfill its purpose.
It is important to realize that in this relationship there is going to be an exchange of importance between Chris and Mom. If this exchange is hampered in any way, friction and conflict will probably be the result. Usually, if we see people with this connection who are in conflict, we know that one or both of them has done something to cause the flow to stop. However, once this has been recognized, they can rectify the situation fairly easily if they choose to.
Chris and Mom should remember this, especially when times of conflict arise. They should also remember that giving and receiving are actually one and the same. Mom has to be willing to receive just as much as Chris has to be willing to give. If either partner gets blocked up for some reason, the energy of this connection will begin to tear it down. But many relationships go through tearing down phases which are followed by building up, so this is not something to be overly concerned about. Just being together over time will remedy most situations that come up.
So we see that this relationship probably has an important purpose, and the more that Chris and Mom are together, the greater the chances of this purpose being fulfilled. Other connections between them will help define the overall nature of their being together and could even lend insight into what will be exchanged. What this Karma Cousin connection tells us is that this relationship has the potential to be very important for both of them.
Mom is the Venus Card to Chris | Location: Life Spread
This is a wonderful connection for any kind of relationship and guarantees that Mom and Chris can be good friends at the very least. The fact is that they both have a lot in common. This gives them many things that they can share and do together. It is a wonderful sign of compatibility and adds a lot to the potential of this relationship to be successful.
In particular, Chris finds many things to like and enjoy in Mom. Even though he may get mad at her at times or irritated by things she does or says, there is an underlying current of friendship that is always there that Chris can tap into and experience at any time. This essential compatibility helps them be ‘friends first, everything else second’ in their relationship. This ‘friends first’ attitude will help them when conflicts arise. It will allow them to let go of personal demands in order to be a friend to the other. This can have a powerful positive effect on the relationship and allow them to resolve difficulties in relatively short amount of time.
It is also very likely that Mom and Chris have a similar, if not the very same, set of values. This means that they give importance to similar things in life. They may have similar life goals or directions, or merely like the same kinds of pleasures and pastimes. This gives them a certain amount of pleasure in just being together as they have so much in common and tends to create positive associations between them that will draw them together again and again.
Put all of this together and we can see that Mom and Chris have very good chances of success as friends, associates or whatever. Unless other connections between them conflict heavily, this one connection alone can be a guarantee of high compatibility. To get the most out of this connection, Mom and Chris only need to remind themselves from time to time of all the wonderful things they share and focus on those things. – Copyright Book of Destiny | www.aboutyourbirthday.com
Dad is the Saturn Card to Chris | Location: Life Spread
Saturn has traditionally been known as the planet of hardship, oldness and difficulties of all kinds. And in fact there are some Saturn relationships in which these qualities predominate. However, there are many Saturn relationships that have other qualities, and in these we see the more positive aspects of Saturn’s influence. We cannot predict exactly how this relationship between Dad and Chris will be affected by this connection because that will depend upon how consciously they choose to apply the energy of this connection. It can be very constructive or it can be difficult and depressing. So, here we will define some of the qualities more specifically so that it can be understood fully.
In this relationship Chris has somehow chosen Dad to be his teacher. Though this may not have been a completely conscious choice, it is so just the same. Dad, being Chris’s Saturn Card, will experience a natural inclination to help Chris by making suggestions for improving his life, career, or situation.
Just having Dad in his life is a reminder to Chris of things he needs to do in order to make his life better than it is. A Saturn person teaches us how to be more responsible, grown-up, practical, disciplined, conscientious and fair. They will help us to become more aware of how our words and actions affect those around us. These lessons can result in Chris becoming more successful in his work, especially if he has strong career aspirations or goals of things he wants to attain. On some level, Dad is a father figure to his and indeed he may remind Chris of his father in many ways.
Taken with a positive attitude, Chris may make great progress in his life by the presence of Dad. The closer this connection is to being the first connection in this relationship, the more important this relationship is for Chris in terms of what he needs to learn. The best possible attitude would be where Chris acknowledges Dad as his teacher or guide. Not that he needs to give up his own thoughts or beliefs to Dad, but just that there are probably things that he can learn from him.
In extreme cases a person that is Saturn to us can be abusive. However, this would only happen to a person who inwardly dislikes who they are so much that they secretly desire to be abused. In these cases, the Saturn person will be the mirror of our own self-hate and disrespect. Indeed, in these cases, the Saturn person is abusive, verbally and otherwise. The key then, is ‘When do we stop being abused by the Saturn person?’, or ‘When do we start loving ourselves enough to attract someone more loving and considerate?’ Our relationships are always a key to find out how we treat ourselves. We invariably choose someone who mirrors the way we feel about our own self. Chris would do well to reflect on this if he finds Dad exhibiting any of the abusive forms of this Saturn energy.
The most positive Saturn relationships are those that help the partner achieve their dreams by aligning them with the how’s and how-to’s of success in the world. A Saturn partner can provide us with direction, understanding, coaching and wisdom – all of which can help us achieve our goals. The Saturn person can handle us. They can put us in our place, where other people may be unable to do so. Therefore we can develop a lot of trust and respect in them. And sometimes that is just what we need, someone to show us the boundaries and discipline us a little. If Chris is, or was, strongly attracted to Dad, then this is very likely the case.
Chris is the Mars Card to Dad | Location: Life Spread
The Mars connection is one of the strongest in terms of how much it affects each of the partners. Mars is the God of War and Anger. It actually represents pure energy, but on an aggressive, passionate level. For this reason this is a great connection for people who actually do physical things together.
Working partners often have this connection and it stimulates them both to achieve more and be productive. However, the negative side of Mars should also be considered as this connection can potentially cause anger and competition and in some cases make real enemies out of the two people involved.
In this relationship Dad is the one who is more affected by it. Because Chris is his Mars card, all this Mars energy is be experienced more by him. This can translate as Chris making Dad feel stimulated, aggressive, or angry and competitive. In its best form, the Mars connection will encourage the two to become active. And if they can actively pursue common goals, it can be very constructive and rewarding.
But Dad must bear the greatest responsibility for the stimulation of this connection and how it is manifested between them. The trouble with anger and competition is that when we are experiencing it, we are completely convinced that the other person, in this case, Chris, is the cause of our problems. Rarely are people angry and realizing that the anger is their problem. But even so, it is their problem if it is they who are angry. So, according to this connection only the way Dad handles the stimulation provided by Chris will determine what goes on and how this strong Mars energy is channeled.
Dad can use this information and consciously transform the often negative effects of this Mars connection into positive directions. It is not that difficult to keep a Mars relationship healthy. It just requires some awareness and thoughtfulness. Chris can actually be a catalyst to get Dad out of his complacency and doing things. To give this powerful Mars energy something constructive to do, it is recommended that Chris and Dad go outside and do things together, or at the very least, find something productive to do together with this energy. Friends or associates with this connection usually go walking, hiking, jogging, riding, shopping, bicycling or participate in other forms of physical exertion. All of these and others serve to exhaust the Mars energy and satisfy it. When they do these sorts of activities together, they will always notice that they feel better, both personally and about each other, afterwards.
This connection provides a lot of the spark, fire, and magic in this relationship. If Chris and Dad use it with care, it can bring them much of what they want out of life. Any negative manifestations of this powerful energy can be controlled and eliminated through conscious awareness and when this is the case, it becomes like a genie in a bottle who can grant them all their wishes. Copyright Book of Destiny| www.aboutyourbirthday.com
It was through these compatibility charts that I was better able to understand the complexities of my relationships with various family members.
That evening my family and I had a nice dinner together. Afterward, we sat down to watch a movie, while my sister and I continued with our board game.
When I went to bed that night, and while I was laying in complete darkness, I remembered my daily meditation. I imagined an umbilical cord running down to the center of the earth and the Divine Energy of creation, and I asked for clear guidance until the end of my journey.